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Year one: a gloriously caffeinated, Southeast Asian adventure

August 7, 2011

Today is our one year anniversary. One year since the best party ever. One year of being the Lewises. It’s been wonderful.

Since I’m still working on writing the tale of how we came to be married, I thought I’d share some of the awesome – and sometimes awesomely bad – things that have made up this past year.


  • Living for one month in Jonathan’s apartment with all of our belongings piled inside
  • Mini-moon in San Diego (with my brother and Jonathan’s friends)
  • A trans-oceanic move in September
  • Nineteen days living at the Thang Loi in Hanoi – home of the world’s hardest beds
  • A weekend at Ha Long Bay for Air Mekong’s wing ceremony
  • Thirteen days living in the dark dungeon that is Saigon’s Bong Sen Hotel
  • Learning to live in a tiny hotel room together (which includes sitting in the bathroom if you want to stay up and read while the other sleeps)
  • Apartment hunting the Vietnamese way, and eventually finding our first home together
  • Me learning to be unemployed and financially dependent after five years as a flight attendant.
  • Jonathan flying for the first privately owned airline in Vietnam and learning to fly the old-school way  – complete with language barriers, no dispatchers, and no national weather radars
  • One permanently smelly refrigerator
  • A month without coffee in the house (In Jonathan’s words “A terrible, terrible month.”)
  • Learning to enjoy the security that comes with a life-long commitment
  • A trip to Dalat and an Easy Rider day trip
  • Realizing that when you’re married (and not flying four-day trips) it’s impossible to hide your crazy from your spouse
  • Being the most white-trash-looking couple in Asia with Jonathan’s big, bad mustache and my yellow hair








  • Weeks of bronchitis and miserable sickness
  • Days in Mui Ne when we feared the beach would be washed away
  • A broken coffee press (we have a solid steel spare now)
  • Touring the Mekong Delta by boat
  • Kuala Lumpur and Langkawi with Jonathan’s parents
  • A visit to Jonathan’s cousins in Hong Kong
  • Finding a tailor and having Joy’s wedding dress made in Vietnam
  • Multiple trips involving weeks of separation as we cross the pond for training, Michal’s graduation, and Joy’s wedding
  • A trip to Nha Trang for mud baths, beaches, great seafood, and snorkeling
  • Pounds and pounds and pounds of Starbucks coffee (thanks, Peter)

Like I said, it’s been a great year. I can hardly wait to see what the next one has in store.

To all of you who have been married forever, is the first year really the hardest? To all of you, what’s your advice for making sure things just keep getting better?

3 Comments leave one →
  1. August 8, 2011 06:44

    Wow. My life seems really really boring all of a sudden…:) I guess I did go to brunch yesterday, where Mike decided he wanted to start a restaurant called “Champagne Dreams and Oyster Whispers” and hey, if THAT idea doesn’t make us jet setting rich people…

    • August 8, 2011 07:20

      You tell Mike that I will visit any restaurant that has Champagne in the name 🙂 If you ever want to jet-set to Vietnam, I know someone who would love to host you. My neighbors love having guests 😉

  2. August 8, 2011 10:02

    It sounds like your first year was a doozy, wild and exciting. It’s really up to you as to how good or bad your marriage is. It’s like life. Some years are better than others, many years are hard, still others harder.

    The tricks are in the attitude and the level of commitment. Also, keep your arguments out of the bedroom and say, ‘I love you’ every day. Good luck!

    Btw, I will have been married 29 years in September.

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